Wedding Planner

Planning A Wedding Shower

Planning a wedding can be a very complicated process not only for the bride but for her closest friends too. In order to help her relax and forget about the wedding stress, the bride is given a wedding or bridal shower. But what do you do, when you are put in the position of planning a wedding shower for your best friend or relative? Let’s try to find out more about planning a wedding shower together.




Firstly, wedding showers are little gatherings of friends and relatives (all women) who celebrate the happy bride before her wedding. They begin preparing her for the married life offering different presents which will help her start her own household. In the previous decades, bridal shower were given for the girls who decided to marry “inappropriate husbands” and their families refused to help them, financially. The bride’s friends would chip in and throw her a little surprise party where they gave her suitable presents. Nowadays, wedding showers represent moment to enjoy great stories, eat delicious food and focus on the bride.

For understanding better how planning a wedding shower develops we are going to try and answer some questions. Who throws a bridal shower? Where to have a bridal shower?  When to have it and who should you invite? For the first question, we have a simple answer: the bridesmaid. She is the one who is in charge of hosting this wedding shower and planning everything in order to please the bride. If we are talking of a small reception at home, the bridesmaid has to pay for everything but if she plans a bigger party she should try and split the costs with the other bridesmaids. And no matter if it is at home or somewhere else, the bridesmaids should all participate at decorating, planning, setting up etc.

The second question can be easily answered too. You can have a wedding shower at the bridesmaids’ house or you can decide for a more complex location like a restaurant, a park, a beach etc. If you decide not to host the wedding shower at your place you are entitled not to pick up the costs. Imagine how it will be to pay for 15 persons at a restaurant.

The last problems can also be taken care of without big problems. The wedding shower can take place anytime from 6 moths before to the week of the big event. If you have guests that are travelling out of town, it would be nice to set the date closer to the wedding so that they can attend without problems, if not, 4 months before the wedding is perfect to have a wedding shower. As for the list of guests you can ask the bride to provide you with some names. You wouldn’t want to commit an indiscretion and invite someone who is not on the wedding list.

When planning such an event, remember to have a happy theme, and invite optimistic persons who will cheer up the bride. She doesn’t need more stress and you definitely don’t need someone who will ruin your party.