Wedding Planner

Planning A Second Wedding

Some say that getting married is the most beautiful experience of one’s life. But what can you do when this experience has to repeat itself? It is a well known fact that relationships are difficult and different, so you can’t expect to continue a relationship, if the passion and love had vanished away. For couples who have passed through a more or less painful divorce, falling in love again is a beautiful thing, yet hard. Finding your soul mate after passing through a failed relationship is not as easy as it was when you were young and waiting for your Prince Charmed to come and rescue you. Couples who are interested in planning a second wedding, are usually experienced and mature couples, who admit having made a mistake and now know what they want from life.




With Prince Charles and Camilla as “role-models”, many couples have started seeing second marriages as second chances to happiness. Or second chances to improve! I am sure that when planning a second wedding you will hear all kinds of advice like “you shouldn’t wear white” or “you shouldn’t have such a fancy second wedding” and so on.

Don’t listen to them! Is your second wedding and you should feel comfortable with your decisions. Having a second wedding means having the chance to improve whatever you did wrong at your first wedding. So if you feel like wearing a white dress do it! If not, you can wear any type of dress you like.

The first thing to be done when planning a second wedding is to announce your marriage to your children, if you have any, and to your ex-husband or ex-wife. Try to tell your kids about your decision in a delicate way so as they don’t feel betrayed or hurt. Also ask them if they want to tell their other parent the news, or they feel you should do it. Announcing your ex that you plan to remarry should be easy, especially if you have kept your relationship at a decent level. Another idea is to send a card in which you can say something like: “I wanted to share with you the glad news that John and I are getting married. I’ve already told our children, and asked them to be a part of the wedding ceremony.”

After doing this, you can start planning your wedding. If you have children, a very good idea is to make them part of your wedding. Depending on their age, they can either be ring bearers, flower girls, groomsmen or bridesmaids. They will feel privileged to have such an important position and you won’t feel guilty for neglecting them.

Another thing to be discussed refers to money. Who pays for the wedding? Normally, the two partners split the cost of the wedding without expecting their family and friends to chip in. Of course if they offer to help, you can’t rudely refuse them.

These are the basic tips which should be taken into account when planning a second wedding although you must not forget that it is your life, your wedding and you make the decisions regarding the evolution of this process. The most important thing is for you to be happy and glow like a princess. For the second time!