Mother Replaced By Groom Daughter’s Wedding Planning

As a bride, planning your wedding (for the first time) is very difficult because you have to cope with the stress that accumulates during this event. But as hard as it is, remember that stress can be a real enemy not only to your health but also in what concerns your relationship with the others (friends, family, future husband etc.). So try not to do things that you may regret afterwards, especially arguing and saying mean things.

This often happens during these stressful moments, because everything that we repressed until that moment can burst and make us say or do things that we don’t actually want to say or do. For instance, some say that if the mother is replaced by the groom, during the daughter’s wedding planning, this can be a very hurtful moment for the mother.

This is a true affirmation of course, because mothers enjoy spending time with their daughters and helping them plan their wedding is like giving candies to a child. This happens, probably because when they planned their own weddings they hadn’t had the opportunity of preparing them exactly as they wished, so now they are trying to recreate their dream weddings. But they should keep in mind not to repeat what their mothers have done to them. Maybe they had the type of nagging mother who wanted their daughters to do precisely what they were told without any argument. If this is true, then I don’t believe that they would want their daughters to go through the same experiences.

Also is the mother is replaced by the groom during the daughter’s wedding planning process, it is not entirely a horrible thing. The groom is the other half of the couple seen as a unity, so he should also be involved in planning the wedding. But not to worry, because not one single bride ( at least not a sane one) would give the groom difficult tasks to perform. Usually, the grooms are in charge of establishing some locations that they would like to see for the wedding ceremony and reception (so that they cannot complaint that they hadn’t been consulted) or taking care of things that concern the “male side” of the family. Choosing his best men, picking a proper tuxedo for him, his best men, father and father-in-law,(or brother-in-law if it is the case), dividing tasks for the best men, making sure that he has the wedding rings, getting a nice haircut and showing up to the wedding, these are all complex tasks for the future husbands. And I am not saying it because I consider men dumb. No! I am saying it because men are not that patient with these kinds of things and they quickly dismiss everything that doesn’t concern them.

So in the end, involving the groom in his own wedding planning is not that wrong, because he would learn how to do these types of things and while spending time with his fiancée, he would get to know her better and see how she behaves in stressful conditions.