Wedding Planner

Mother Left Out Of Daughter’s Wedding Planning

What is the first thing that comes into your mind when you hear the word “weddings”? White, happiness, emotions but also stress, tears and yelling. People are different and therefore, they react differently in stressful situation. That is why, it is also good to have beside you, as a bride, people who are calm, organized, fresh and experienced. For a bride, this type of person would be the wedding planner, the bridesmaids or her mother. Depending on the relationship between them, mothers of the brides often represent the main support in this kind of situations. But what it there to say about the mothers  who are left out of their daughter’s wedding planning?




This can be a delicate situation because the bride may have different reasons which can justify her decision. Not wanting your mother to participate at the planning of your wedding it is not a strange thing, but it is important to know how to tell her this news. Since they give birth to their daughters, mothers start fantasizing about their weddings, and how will they organize them. Hearing that your daughter doesn’t want you to be a part of her wedding planning is not the best thing you would want to hear. But you should not take this personally. Remember that they too have planed their weddings since they were children and it would be a pity not to achieve their goals.

Mothers who are left out of their daughter’s wedding planning should not try to oblige their daughters to listen to their ideas. If you are smart, you could use manipulation. Be subtle and take advantage of the fact that you know your daughter better than anyone. Leave some wedding dress magazines on the kitchen table, tell her that her high school friend had the same caterer and it turn out to be a disaster and so on. She will start having doubts, and maybe consider what you have to say, although you are not part of the wedding planning. Pay attention that this piece of advice should be used only if you consider that she is about to make serious mistakes and you don’t want her to suffer. Don‘t use manipulation only to convince her to do it your way.

Also try to keep in mind that you are not the only one who has considered manipulation. You may know your daughter very well but “what goes around comes back around”. She also knows your tricks and sometimes, even if the figures you out, she might consider doing it your way so as you don’t feel hurt. Think about these situations and try to choose the one which fits best your daughter’s wishes, not yours.

As a mother you should consider first your daughter’s happiness and forgive her mistakes, because when it will be her turn to become a mother, she will understand all your sacrifices and love you even more.

As a conclusion, I think it is right to say that  mothers want only what’s best for their children and if they are left out of their daughters’ wedding planning they should feel relieved that they are not caught in all the planning chaos and  they have more free time to spend with their little brides.