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Love My Stepmother And Planning My Wedding

For many children their parents’ divorce is one of the most upsetting periods of their lives. Seeing your parents separated, fighting everyday and sometimes even saying bad things about each other, can really affect a person, even if he or she is a little child or a grown man or woman. More difficult is to decide yourself, if you are allowed to, who is the parent you are going to stay with. They both want to spend time with you and sometimes forget that you are just an innocent victim of their communication issues.




As you grow older, things tend to simplify because you develop the ability to understand better the elements that led your parents to take that painful decision. But how do you behave when you come in contact with a new mommy and to all these ads the trouble of planning a wedding?

How can you learn to love your stepmother and do a good job with planning your wedding? A wedding where your new mom has to be present beside to your real mom, of course. All these questions need to be treated delicately.

First of all, think about your stepmother as a person who hasn’t done anything wrong. She simply found your father, fell in love and voila. It is a known fact that girls tend to act more brutal with the new mothers, but a thing that should always be remembered is that their fathers’ happiness is all that counts. Learning to love your stepmother is not the easiest thing in the world, but is not the hardest thing either. You just need to be patient and give the woman a chance! When planning your wedding you need to be careful not to forget about the love you have for your stepmother. Try to integrate her in the wedding schedule and remember to give her easy tasks (don’t put her in charge of keeping an eye on your alcoholic uncle or discuss with your nagging aunt). At least not at your wedding! You will have the chance to pick on her at other family reunions.

Also, don’t forget about your mother. Invite her to the wedding and try to give her enough attention. Keep in mind that, although you may have a super relation with your stepmother, your real mother and your father should be the most important persons in your life. So at the wedding, make them part of your plans. I am sure your stepmother would not mind if you steel your father away from her for a couple of hours.

These little tips should do the trick when you are put in the position of choosing. If you take into account your parents’ feelings you cannot do anything wrong. And if they seem unsatisfied with your decisions, remind them that you have done everything possible and impossible for them to get along and if they don’t realize that, they are just being selfish. Not one single parent would have anything else to add after a speech like this!