Wedding Planner

First step to planning a wedding- the guests list

Are you stressing on the theme who’ll be your bridesmaids? What friends or what relatives? Choosing the bridesmaids suite is lot of work, no joke. Choosing the bridesmaids is the first step to planning a wedding because they’ll be the persons who’ll help you with all you need. Examine these decisive factors, and selection will be a breeze. How many bridesmaids? The first thing you should take  into account when choosing your suite is the number of guests that you want at your wedding.




Bridal suite may vary from one lady / lady of honor to more than 12 companions, most experts agree that the principle weddings best result is a pair formed by a groomsman and a maid of honor for every 50 guests. (That does not mean that you have to ask strangers to attend a wedding just because the fiance has a companion more. Life as well go ahead even if the number of men of honor and bridesmaid is unbalanced.) Also, a big wedding means a traditionally formal wedding. So if you’re planning a smaller one, an intimate meeting, ten bridesmaid can be a bit exaggerated.

More does not mean better
Speaking of size, remember, the more bridesmaids you have, the more chances to appear complications. In other words, there will be more people that you have to fall by an agreement in terms of dress or arrange a date for pre-wedding party, and if your budget is tight, think about who should pay for all necessary bouquets. Exactly – you’re the one who pays. A good tip is to have a pair formed by a groomsman and a maid of honor for every 50 people.

Blood is not water
If you are close of your sister or your future sister probably didn’t even crossed your mind not involve them in your wedding. But if you aren’t just close to your sister (future sister) your idea of asking her to be your bridesmaid is unthinkable. Still worth it to include family members. Just to avoid unnecessary conflicts. Think that this way you get a better position in negotiations with your mother when it comes to the guest list. Without revenge- No need to ask someone to be present at your wedding just because she asked you to be at her wedding. Don’t ask your roommate that you have not talked to you five years to return a favor. Weddings are not ideal for revenge.

Expectations
What are you waiting from your bridesmaids? It is enough just moral support, or are you expecting from them to be your right hand? If the latter option is that you stop at, think twice before you ask friends who live far away or have a very busy and hectic schedule. You don’t want to find yourself in the situation to be frustrated because a good friend of yours cannot help you as much as you’d like.

No assumptions
Try not to make hasty assumptions. Do not delete from the list some friends because they haven’t enough money to afford that Vera Wang dress you like so much.

If you want to ask a friend who you know has financial problems, you can formulate something like, “I’d like you to be my lady of honor, but I understand tough time going through now. If you cannot, I would love you to be able to be otherwise involved in the wedding.” (Or you can offer to pay her transportation if you cannot support the idea that she won’t be at your wedding).

Boys matters
A maid of honor should not be mandatory a woman. Although women are the majority, however if your friend is the best boy, there are no reason for him not to be involved in the wedding. Today, many brides (and grooms) include as companions members of the opposite sex. In such cases, a man who is the bride part is called companion or simply bridesman, while a woman who is accompanying the groom, she may be called lady of honor of the groom.

Others honors
Still you don’t find enough solutions? You must take into account that your  friends may have other roles in the wedding if they weren’t chosen to be part of a team or another – to read something, to handle the wedding programs or to interpret a song.

Spread the news
Once you have decided on the maid of honor, you will want to give the news about it. One worse thing: a collegue of yours that she’s your wedding guest but still she was supposing that she’ll be your bridesmaid.  If you are afraid to hurt anyone’s feelings, remember this, even if sounds cliché, a true friend will understand any decision that you will ultimately take. And in conclusion, as faster you decide,  the faster you will check a box on your endless list of things to do for the wedding because choosing the bridal suite is just the first step to planning a wedding.